a winding goodbye post for cohost, which i enjoyed lurking very much and would have gotten around to posting if i'd had more time

i was so young when dial-up was around that i remember my mom giving me access to her instant messenger (yahoo?), me clicking every single colorful emoji in the list, and promptly crashing our internet for several hours. i don't really remember dial-up internet. i remember the sound as a re-telling of that era, and i remember the stories my parents told me. but despite not really having experienced dial-up internet myself, i do feel a fondness and longing for it, and the culture that surrounded it. i feel nostalgic for dial-up internet. but it isn't my history, per se.

this has happened to me a few different ways. i ran into an old dreamcast bulletin board a while back (btw if it redirects you to https, you don't get images or css) and got punched square in the

Too long, didn't read

If you use systemd-resolved and are dealing with a single wireless network device,

sudo dhclient -r wlan0
sudo systemd-resolve --flush-caches
sudo systemctl restart systemd-resolved
sudo dhclient wlan0

This translates to:

1. Release lease on target network device
2. Flush DNS cache
3. Restart DNS resolution service
4. Request a new lease on target network device

You may not already have dhclient; it's just a controller, not a service, so installing it after the fact will still work.

Wait, that's it?

Well, no. This is why I provided the translation: If you don't use the specific tools or services that I do, you can still go looking for those four translated instructions as they apply to your DNS service and its interactions with your local DHCP server.

You see, my first instinct to figure this out was to google it, but that turned up a dozen different low-context answers, all spread across fifteen years of changes to the Linux network stack. I spent 45 minutes answering

One of the most persistent troubles I have is dealing with self-sabotaging thoughts. Embarassment, guilt, fear, insecurity, the thought that others would judge me for doing something or for not knowing something, and more. These come up all over the place. There's a ton in the world I don't know that my friends do. There's somebody sending a message I'm not getting. A friend's body language conveys something obvious to everyone in the room, except me. Every time something like that would come up, I'd get a hit of embarassment, fear of missing out, frustration, respective to the situation. Then that would spiral into over-thinking and paralyze me.

I lucked my way into a strategy that worked in most situations, helped me focus on what matters, and helped me get through problems that I felt I couldn't resolve alone or turn to help from others for.

It goes something like this:

1. Separate the problems, concerns, insecurities, and negative feelings you have